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From:Burke, VA
Registered: Dec 2003

posted 02-04-2004 02:05 PM         

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we had to bring my mom's cat to live with us because my mom couldn't keep it. baby the cats name is our cats mom. she is 12yrs old and our cat is 10yrs. baby was an outdoor cat. gibson is indoor/outdoor. he was a very happy cat..loving life. baby is very aggressive and keeps attacking him. she runs after him and he has to run into our bedroom which he loves but since she came he is like the deer in the headlights all the time. i know he is stressed out all the time and when he comes out of our room he is checking to see if she is near. should we let her out...i am afraid she will terrorize him outdoors too. its been 4 months now. i thought she would adjust to him and she would have a good home with us but now i wonder. i have rubbed them with the same towel and have tried a lot of other things. she is so agressive and has hurt him twice. we both work and some days i am afraid of what i will find when i come home. she is in the basement. he is in our bedroom a lot of the time. she has come into the bedroom with him in there and walked over to his dish and eaten out of it and drank from his water dish. he just watched her. will she ever get used to him? what can we do for this problem?

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From:CA
Registered: Nov 2003

posted 02-04-2004 06:08 PM         

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Hello. I'm so sorry Gibson is all stressed out, because of Baby. Poor kitty. A lot of members here have suggested Feliway to help cats mellow out a bit. 4 months is a long time for Baby to still be a big brat with Gibson. I'm not the best person to give advice on this topic, as I only have one cat. However, until others give their two cents I'll give it a shot. Perhaps, you could start with the Feliway and see if this helps at all. If not you could just keep them seperated at all times, until things settle down. I would let Gibson have free range of the house as it is his house and he's not the one acting up. Baby could then be kept in one room. Then you could let her out when you are home and see how she acts. If she starts picking on Gibson, then put her back into the room you are keeping her in. Also, keep rubbing each cat with the same towel so that both of their smells are on each other. Although Baby is being a brat, she is also having to adjust to a new home. I'm sure she's missing her old life too. If you do keep them seperated make sure that Baby is still getting attention from you. Check on her, pet her and give her a lot of love. I hope others here will post some good advice for you.

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posted 02-04-2004 07:59 PM         

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There was another poster a while back in a similar situation and (if I remember correctly) it was about 6 months before the new adult cat would tolerate the resident cat.
Age should be considered as it seems that the older the cat the longer the adjustment period. In the meantime, I think Feliway is definately worth giving a try and I would also recommend keeping the cats seperate while you are not around to supervise until they are better adjusted and can at least tolerate one another just to make sure neither of them gets hurt.

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