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SnapShot
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posted 11-27-2003 08:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SnapShot     Edit/Delete Message
Here's the deal in short....

I been with my girlfriend for about a year, and we are going to move in together soon...the only problem is that her cat is used to sleeping in the bedroom, and that is NOT GONNA HAPPEN WHEN I MOVE IN, because she walks around on me all through the night and she won't settle down. (I'm a very lite sleeper) I have gone through countless nights without sleep staying at my GF's house. So finally I told her that if she wants me to stay at her house any more that the cat would have to sleep outside the bedroom, so that I can sleep. She said no problem. So I thought great, now I can get some sleep......hahaha yeah right that would be to easy....

So, the cat is now locked outside the bedroom at night.....however......now the HOWLING starts and doesn't stop till about 4am and then starts back up at 6am till we get up. So....once again, endless nights of no sleep. I'm about ready to SNAP!!!!. What do I do to get her (the cat, not the GF) to SHUT UP, so that I can sleep.

I searched this topic here but all I really came up with is....
1. yes she is spayed

2. put her somewhere else where you cant hear her. (The house is to small I hear her anywhere in the house)

3. change her feeding habits.. (did that, and it didn't change anything)

4. Get rid of the cat... (can't, girlfriend likes the cat to much)


Do they make a shock coller for cats, like they do for dogs to stop them from barking?

Can I just use a dog's shock coller?

Any help would be great, I don't want her cat to split us apart, but if it doesn't stop, it just might.

Thanks

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nern

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posted 11-27-2003 09:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for nern     Edit/Delete Message
I would NOT recommend putting a dog shock collar on a cat. All you can really do is ignore the howling and it will eventually stop once the cat learns that howling is not going to get it into the bedroom. This will take some time though. How long has it been so far since the cat has been banned from the bedroom?

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Chessmind
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posted 11-27-2003 09:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Chessmind     Edit/Delete Message
No you can not use a dog shock collar on a cat! Jeez! My advice to you (advice you probably don't want to hear), is don't move in with your girlfriend. Perhaps, others on this site will have more sound advice for you. It just appears to me that you could care less about the cat and that's not going to be good for the cat or your relationship with your girlfriend. However, I think it's good that you're trying to get advice to try and resolve the issue. I hope someone on this site can help.

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SnapShot
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posted 11-27-2003 10:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SnapShot     Edit/Delete Message
I don't really mean a real Dog Shock collor, but is there something like that for cats?

I like her cat, I just don't like it in the bedroom.

It's been about a month since we locked the cat out. I guess I'll just try waiting longer. Should I leave all the lights off in the living room, so that the cat is in the dark. I got the cat a nightlight so that it would have something else to do instead of howling, but I guess it didn't matter, because she still howls.

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Claudia T
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posted 11-27-2003 11:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Claudia T     Edit/Delete Message
Hi!
I can understand your problem because I am a light sleeper, too, and when we got our second cat, he kept me awake all night.
We locked him into the living room because he scratched on our bedroom door all night. In the living room, he meowed for what seemed most of the night to us. I love him, and I felt awful about this, but I simply couldn't find restful sleep with him under and over my cover, licking my legs and trying to catch my toes etc.
What we did, was the following: First, we feed him in the evening, play and cuddle with him, so that he will be tired by bedtime. Then, we "weaned him off": My husband slept on a make-shift bed in the frontroom with him for a few nights. Then we made the bed, but he ended up never coming. Then we put the bed away but "forgot" a cover on the sofa. That's where he sleeps now, peacefully.
He still whines when we close doors in the house, but at night he has accepted that he will sleep by himself. So much so that he doesn't even try to run out when we happen to come in during the night!

I think, your posting on this website shows that you care about your girlfriend and her cat, and I understand completely, how bad life is without proper sleep.

Good luck for the future for the three of you! Claudia

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SnapShot
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posted 11-28-2003 02:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SnapShot     Edit/Delete Message
Well, I'll have to try feeding it late at night adn run it around the house to tire it out. Those little laser pointers I think are more intertaing for me than they are for the cat.

I bought a nice little cat bed from the pet store for her, but she doesn't seem to use it. I'm also in the process of building a new cat tower hoping that she'll use it to sleep in or on.

Thanks for the advise.

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Katerina
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posted 11-28-2003 09:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Katerina     Edit/Delete Message
For the cat bed put it where she normally sleeps even if its on a chair and she'll start using it. After a couple of weeks start moving it slowly towards where you would like her to sleep.

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Kayliface
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posted 11-28-2003 11:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Kayliface     Edit/Delete Message
My cat is the same way .. it's horrible. She cries at ANY closed door, I keep her in the washroom (I feel SO bad about it) but I cannot sleep!

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LottynTrike
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posted 11-29-2003 03:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LottynTrike     Edit/Delete Message
ahh this is kinda cute. i can just see this guy doing anything he can to please this cat but still he has sleepless nights!! you poor thing. sorry i dont know what to tell you though. my boyfriend hated sleeping over at my house becasue my dog snores like a grown man!! and there is no way she wasnt going to sleep in the bed with me!! but good luck keep us posted and tell me if that kitty tower works!!

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mybigfunny
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posted 11-30-2003 03:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mybigfunny     Edit/Delete Message
I hope my boyfriend, whenever I get one, will be as willing to do for, and accept, my cats.

Try putting the cats favorite toy and some catnip in its' bed, oh, and maybe something that smells like your girlfriend.

Good Luck!

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Caitlyn
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posted 11-30-2003 06:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Caitlyn     Edit/Delete Message
I know this might sound strange but have you tried just moving in with your girlfriend letting the cat in the bedroom and seeing how it goes?

All my cats have a habit of wandering across the bed and chewing my hair. It used to drive me crazy, for about the first month we had them I never got any sleep, they howled when they were locked out. We relented and let them back in just to be kept awake again. However there is a good end to this because two things happened, my cats got used to the fact that lights off meant we were going to not be paying them attention and two my partner and I became really heavy sleepers! The cats can practially destroy th bedroom, have a huge fight with each other and we don't wake up now! Though mostly they just walk across us in the night.

It really was a case of us getting used to them being there once your body adjusts to the fact they aren't a threat they don't wake you up anymore! I would give it a go as no doubt it would make both your g/f and the cat happy and you won't feel that your being the 'bad guy'

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emmit
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posted 11-30-2003 07:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for emmit     Edit/Delete Message
Hi,
My husband to be hates the cats (2) to be in the bedroom. When he goes to work i let the cats sleep on the bed. (opps) Maybe try this:
When you both go to bed let the cat sleep there aswel. wait until the cat is asleep then gently move her to where you would like it to sleep. I have to do this to mine, i got them a cat post with 3 levels and they love it. Put some toys in there that she can play with. i hope this might help.

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