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carrie
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From:seymour, IN, USA
Registered: Feb 2003

posted 02-04-2003 11:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for carrie     Edit/Delete Message
I brought home Shaman from the shelter 6 years ago- she was pregnant at the time and had five beautiful kittens, one of which stayed with us. I have been truly blessed to be in her company and love her very much. She died yesterday. She had FIV- mouth ulcerations, wouldn't eat, lost half her weight, blood in her stools. I prayed nature would take her and I wouldn't have to have a vet put her to sleep, but it didn't and so he did. My mind is plagued with whether I made the right decision. I have never had to make that decision for any animal who has lived with me, and her fear resonates in my mind. I didn't want her last memory to be of people she didn't know and a cold lab table. The vet refused to come to our house. I feel has though I have let her down, though I know she was suffering very much so. Do you think animals have souls? I really don't know what words I am looking for here- I am simply having a difficult time dealing with my decision and letting her go.

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woofdoggy
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posted 02-05-2003 01:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for woofdoggy     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Carrie,
Of course you made the right decision. You did the kindest thing which was to end her suffering.To let nature take over would have been unkind.And never forget, you loved your Shaman very much, and she knew it, as animals do. She had love and happiness.I doubt she would have been afraid at the end, she wouldn't have known what was going on.

I do believe we meet up with our beloved pets when we pass on and why wouldn't animals have souls?
You are grieving now, which sadly must be for now. You will let go in time, but be very gentle with yourself meantime, and be comforted with the knowledge that your dear pet had the best this world can offer - love.

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Albert
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posted 02-05-2003 01:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Albert     Edit/Delete Message
carrie,

Be strong. You did the right thing and followed the best decision.

woofdoggy, has put it so nicely and i strongly agree with every word she said.

Indeed, "be comforted with the knowledge that your dear pet had the best this world can offer - love" (quoting woofdoggy).

Cheer up, itíll be OK

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PITBULL_PRINCESS1979
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From:LOUISIANA,USA
Registered: Dec 2002

posted 02-05-2003 02:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PITBULL_PRINCESS1979     Edit/Delete Message
Carrie,
I just want to start off by saying I am so sorry for you loss.It is always a horrible thing when we loose our beloved pets.Time will pass and the hurt will go away.You will always have those wonderful memories of her.I believe you made the right choice,she is in a better place were she feels no pain.I also believe all living things have soul.Just remember to keep you head up and things will get better.If you ever need someone to talk to we at auspet are always here.

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sabrinasmother
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posted 02-05-2003 05:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sabrinasmother     Edit/Delete Message
Carrie, thanks for responding to my question about anesthesia. I hope you find some comfort here on this board, amongst people who can identify with the depth of your pain. I'm very sorry for the loss of your dear friend.

Of course you are having doubts - that's a perfectly normal reaction after such a heart-heavy decision. Just reading what you wrote, I feel the same as others - you made the right decision. Time will dull the edges of your self doubt, and now you have a guardian angel watching over you.

When you are feeling better, you may want to research various vets in your area and determine which ones WOULD come to your house if and when you ever encounter that situation again. I found a vet around me who will come, and it gives me some comfort because I know I will not outlive my girls and if I have to make that decision, we can stay here in our home.

Try to take solace in what you gave Shaman. The brutal truth is that if you had not adopted her, she may have been euthanized at the shelter (especially because she was pregnant and most people don't want to take that on). You gave her six years of love and a happy life, and she in turn gave you companionship and joy. Nothing will lessen the hurt except time, and nothing will take away the memories of Shaman. She'll be with you always, even though her physical presence is gone. You also have her offspring, who will be a constant reminder of your years with Shaman.

I'm not sure about the soul question, but I am convinced that animals have spirits. I've encountered the power of that spirit from the savannas of Africa, while watching wild elephants nurture their young calves, to various sanctuaries caring for primates rescued from medical experimentation. Each animal has an intangible force which stays with us when our lives touch theirs. I know I'm strengthened and inspired by the spirits of animal companions who have gone before me.

After some time passes, I hope you will consider opening your heart and home again to another animal who needs love. As vulnerable as we make ourselves when we adopt cats and dogs who die before we do, nothing can match the happiness with which they enrich our lives. My best to you in this very difficult time.

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carrie
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From:seymour, IN, USA
Registered: Feb 2003

posted 02-07-2003 06:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for carrie     Edit/Delete Message
I want to thank all four of you for respondng to my message- all of your words are thoughtful- know that I appreciate them! -Carrie

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