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tyed_dyed00 Member  Posts: 43 |
posted 01-29-2004 06:25 PM
 
hey every one, i have a big problym, well let me start by saying that i have givin advice but now i really need it, im going to have a little girl due in march and my ex says to me that when our baby is born she wants me to get rid of oakley, and sadie, i told her that i became a vet because i love animals, pits more than any other, and she dont understand that. im going to love my baby, and at this point i WILL NOT give up my dogs. then she says to me that she will not move in with me because she wont trust my dogs around the baby,but i trust them with my life and now we are fighting and we havnt talked in 3 weeks. i look in the long run, that when my child gets older she will have two dogs to watch over her and protect her what, it feels like my ex is asking me to give up my career and the things that i love for this baby, am i selfish?? ** Administrator Note:
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MyPetTherapyDog Member Posts: 157 |
posted 01-29-2004 09:34 PM
Well, first let me CONGRATULATE you on your soon to be baby daughter!!! Gosh I wish mine were that young again. How exciting. I also understand both sides in this argument. (I agree with yours though)  I gather that your "ex" is not into animals as much as a "Animal Doctor" is? I also understand your love for your dogs and your reasons for you not to give them up. Has she been with your dogs as long as you? I think you both can come to an agreement on your family issues. She must know by now how much your dogs mean to you and they are also part of your family just as she and your soon to be baby shall be too. I do however understand the need for a mother to protect and watch over her children as well. She is a first time mom and frightened by the big bad world out there. You must know the hormones are in full swing now!!!! (you think this is bad wait till post partium depression hits in) My pits adore children!!! Most of them do. You can do some cold facts research on autistic children and the pitbulls they used for therapy for them. The finally decided to go to another breed because the pitbulls took too much abuse from the kids over and over again. You might help your daughters mom ease her fears by agreeing to have your dogs temperament tested by a colleague of yours? Seeing and hearing it from another person other than you might be the ticket. Also, invite some of your friends over with their children, show off in front of your "ex" just how great your pits can be with kids!!! Also, agree to gating off an area in your house for your dogs to stay until your girlfriend becomes less fearful of the dogs. Try placing a soft muzzle on them for the first few times they great the new little lady (just to ease your girlfriends first time fears) In spring time, both of you take your baby out for a walk in the stroller, you take one of your babies on a leash, make a family day out of it. (pack a picnic) She will be happy to have a dog at her side to protect her new little bundle. The fresh air and exercise will be beneficial for all!!! Gain her trust slowly, DON'T PUSH HER!!!!!!! And make sure to pamper the new mom to be as well. If you all come half way I am sure everything will all work out for your new little family!!! Good luck. I am happy for you!!! PS What is her name going to be? (Both of you make up and enjoy starting your family) Life is too short to fight!!! I married my ex-husband X2. LOL (No one else wanted us other than our pitbulls and our children) LOL LOL LOL IP: Logged |
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Samsintentions Member Posts: 944 |
posted 01-30-2004 04:50 AM
I know you didn't ask me for the advice, but...I agree with you, and I see both sides of the river on this one. It has been know that when a baby is born into the family, that dogs can become jelous...You'll have to really watch that one. Perhaps she needs to move in with you while she's pregnant. This could help the dogs adjust better with out her moving in suddenly with a baby. With Granvel and I, we're setting up our new home, and talking about marriage and kids...its a difficult decision, but I wouldn't ever give up my dogs or horses or any of my animals for that. There are all kinds of ways to get around this problem. Get an outdoor kennel, when the baby is born, you don't have to worry about them hurting her while she's outside. Perhaps your "girlfriend/wife" can learn about them as well. Pick up some books, let her spend time with them. She'll understand. Hopefully eventually she'll come around. IP: Logged |
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MyPetTherapyDog Member Posts: 157 |
posted 01-30-2004 08:06 AM
Good points Samsintentions!!! IP: Logged |
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shanean Member Posts: 43 |
posted 01-30-2004 10:45 AM
Geez,tough situation.I must admit with my tail tucked that I also had her same fears,before I opened my home and heart to my first pitt.I NEVER believed I would own a pitt ever.My neighbor had one and I freaked out when ever it got loose. I had a very heated discussion with it's owner,and even though the woman was 3-fries short of a happymeal,I regret everything I said about the dog.I had the same narrow minded thinking that soooo many other people have,I was not raised in a family that had any big dogs of any kind much less a pitt.A few years ago the barber that cuts my girlfriend and son's hair,started trying to get me to see the light.He brought in pictuers of his pups and I asked a million questions,I bought every book I could find,I talked to our vet(who also owns a 2 pitts and has 4 2-leggers)I keep my eyes and ears opened,and found my amstaff though my local paper.It was love at first sight,he's the best.And we now are the proud parents of 2 new boys.Buster has truly changed our lives.So like I said I understand her fears.Why not have her read some of the stories on here?Get some books,maybe you could have her post her concerns and we'll help her.GOOD LUCK...Congrats on the 2-legger they are great!!! IP: Logged |
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tyed_dyed00 Member Posts: 43 |
posted 01-30-2004 11:02 AM
thanks everyone, hey pet therapy, i think we are going to name her madison, i have set time for my friend to eval my dogs for her, that was a great idea, but she found a catch in the idea,she said that my friend (another vet) is my friend and she said he is parcial to pits also, im going to get her on here to post her concerns, so you guys can ease her mind, she has her questions that i answer, but she wont listen to me, you know because there my dogs IP: Logged |
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Samsintentions Member Posts: 944 |
posted 01-30-2004 12:20 PM
Of course she's not going to listen to you silly... The best thing is for her to spend some quailty time with them. WIth you there and alone. Eventually she'll see the light. IP: Logged |
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True_Pits Member Posts: 373 |
posted 01-30-2004 12:30 PM
Guess I'm late LOL. But I really like everyone's ideas about taking it slow and just easing her into the idea. Once she realizes how wonderful the dogs are she'll never want to live without them. That would be great if she comes on hear to post/ask questions. Maybe she would like to see some pics of APBTs with babys. They love them and seem understand that they need to be gentle. IP: Logged |
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tyed_dyed00 Member Posts: 43 |
posted 02-01-2004 09:53 AM
hey true_pits yeah you were late, i already got some good advice. and im going to have her come here and see your pics im trying to get pics but the cam i have isnt right for xp IP: Logged |
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MyPetTherapyDog Member Posts: 157 |
posted 02-01-2004 11:34 AM
tyed_dyed00 If you e-mail me MyPetTherapyDog@aol.com with your e-mail address, I shall send you some pics of my pitbull/ pitbull mixes for you to show her. All of mine were shelter dogs (except Katie) she was dumped in a local park and left for dead. Ginger the tan and white is the one I do the pet therapy with!!! IP: Logged |
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