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alwayshunter New Member  Posts: 3 |
posted 02-27-2004 07:22 PM
 
i just recently lost my 10 yr old sheltie (chance)from a heart attack just a few weeks ago. i keep telling mom i am not ready to replace chance yet.she agreeed with me,but now she got told by someone that they have a 9 week old snouzer(not sure of spelling)that we could buy from them..we both like snouzers.so we are a bit excited,but at the smae time,we keep thinking about chance.that we are not really over him yet.y question finnaly is..is there anyone who has lost of family dog and bought a puppy not long after?and how did it affect you in the grieving of your deceast pet?all replys are welcome IP: Logged |
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GoodboysBaddogs Member  Posts: 409 |
posted 02-27-2004 08:02 PM
Hi there, Hey, i know how the thought of your beloved chance can be very heavy at times, if not all the time, but getting another pup (when your spirits are ready) can be just what your soul has been longing for. When my 1st dog passed away, it was just the worst, "." The last few days we spent together untill the very end of his ordeal, i will always have w/ me forever. It's a scar of life, you know? But outta all places, it's right on the heart. Why could'nt it have been on my butt or something?!? J/K... Well, i'm not really sure exactly "when the time is right" to get another dog is. I say the simple fact that you & your mom are wanting another dog/pup again, is a sign good enough for another. I'm sure Chance was loved a lot, & i have no-doubt that when this next pup is brought to your hearts, that it will get more love than you ever thought you could give another dog. My 1st dog turned me into a "dog fanatic", and i'm VERY PROUD OF IT
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elizavixen Member Posts: 160 |
posted 02-27-2004 08:07 PM
I bought my puppy awhile after I lost (literally lost - someone stole him) my other dog. It was over a year later, but I was/am still grieving. The first few days after I got the puppy I was really upset because I realized that he wasn't going to take the place of Stanley (the dog I lost). But I have realized that he is a different dog with different attributes (and problems) and I love him for that reason. I don't regret buying the puppy. He certainly keeps me entertained. I still think about Stanley constantly, so it doesn't really take away from the grieving. It just gives you something else to love. IP: Logged |
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Marcia McLean-Jasinski Member Posts: 63 |
posted 02-27-2004 09:29 PM
You will always love your old dog and you can not replace him. But that does not mean you should not love again if their is room in your house and heart go for it. thier is a very old saying when you fall off the horse get right back up. has always worked for me because it helps you get over the loss quicker. love that new puppy you both deserve it  ------------------ IP: Logged |
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susan_cude@hotmail.com Member Posts: 813 |
posted 02-27-2004 09:55 PM
Hi! And wellcome to the forum, even though it is under sad circumstances. i'm very sorry about your loss! like all above said: no dog will ever take the place of chance in your heart, and they shouldn't! That's why God (in my opinion) gave us enough room in our hearts to love more than one at a time. I would say: follow your heart on this one, and see what wonderous things can happen. Good luck to you, and let us know what you decide. Sincerely, Susan IP: Logged |
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woodman New Member Posts: 9 |
posted 02-28-2004 05:05 AM
Hi. I asked a similar question here last October/November and then went agianst the kind advice that told me to wait. I don't regret getting our new rescue dog at all. I needed a dog in the house, and she is as different from Jasiu as she can be, so there's no question of replacing or betraying the old dog. I still grieve for him, but I also love Daisy very much. If YOU are ready, nothing else matters. We had a big hole in our heasrt and Daisy helped fill it. Jane W IP: Logged |
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Jamiya Member Posts: 1392 |
posted 02-28-2004 05:59 AM
Hello, and I am so sorry for your loss. My dog died very suddenly last summer, in July. It was awful. I cried for weeks. Looking at new dogs helped me to feel better, but at first I didn't get one. I felt guilty. Then I realized I really wanted a dog in my life, and we adopted a puppy in September. When we got her home, I realized her face was a lot like my other dog, and because she is a bigger breed she was actually the same size as my adult dog that had died. That actually made it harder. I cried for another week. I estimated birthdays, trying to determine if she was born AFTER my dog died and therefore could be her spirit returned, but she was born before. I felt so guilty, playing outside with the puppy in sight of Hocus' grave. I told Hocus how much we loved her and how sorry I was that I failed her at the end. Looking back, I have to say that waiting might have been better. BUT, I do love my new dog and I am glad we have her, and I have made my peace with Hocus as best I can. I think you need to go with your heart. There will ALWAYS be dogs and puppies available for you to adopt. Don't rush just because there's an opportunity now that you think you might lose later. You don't know what the future will bring. Choose the companion that is right for you and your family. Take your time - it is a huge commitment and you want to end up with the "right" fit.
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tuttifrutti Member Posts: 478 |
posted 02-28-2004 06:41 AM
I got my brittany pup just 3 or 4 months after my aussie died. It definately helped with the grieving process...I still love and miss my old aussie, but by the time I came to appreciate her, she was old and kinda fragile. Now I have a rambunctious puppy to keep me busy . My aussie (kopon) was in a major chunk of my life (14 years), so she is still special, but a new puppy helps you get over it a little quicker.IP: Logged |
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tuttifrutti Member Posts: 478 |
posted 02-28-2004 06:42 AM
I got my brittany pup just 3 or 4 months after my aussie died. It definately helped with the grieving process...I still love and miss my old aussie, but by the time I came to appreciate her, she was old and kinda fragile. Now I have a rambunctious puppy to keep me busy . My aussie (kopon) was in a major chunk of my life (14 years), so she is still special, but a new puppy helps you get over it a little quicker.IP: Logged |
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