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cybbogirl New Member  Posts: 2 |
posted 10-29-2003 09:46 PM
 
hey all, first of all i want to thank all of you from the bottom of my heart for even replying to the previous post i made. just an update for you on this; i did take bruno to the vet today and she told me nothing new  she said that he seems very happy and healthy and it is unfortunate that he has to stay in the basement but im doing the best i can do and that giving him to a rescue/another home may not be a good idea considering he is 9 years old and may not be given a better situation or be able to adjust.she said maybe try and get him a buddy?? now obviously this was difficult to hear because once again i felt alone leaving the vet with my dog only looking to me. what was i to do now?? everyone says no 2 dogs. so what is the next step?i guess i can say that nothing much is making me feel better about any of this.it has been going on like this for the last 3-4 months (me finally having major issues with this multi-year problem) my parents tell me i have to detach myself from the dog because i am going to have a breakdown. i dont eat very much or sleep (im also going through some quarter life post-college stuff too by the way)and each night i have stayed up to research ways and answers for this problem. i guess that something has to give. my parents will not give him up and im sorry, but i cannot get rid of him behind their back (guilt with that too).i also feel uncofmortable about a rescue b/c i cant be guarenteed he will have a home.my parents are just so old school and believe 'dogs are dogs and he is fine'.i am different and we clash.its just that when i have to put him back downstairs after our walks i begin to cry because i know i am abandoning him. i dont know what to do anymore and it just seems unbearable. please if anybody knows something to make it better, email me at cybbogirl@aol.com thanks for your support. bruno appreiates it too* IP: Logged |
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Lucky Member  Posts: 75 |
posted 10-30-2003 07:34 AM
I'm sorry things are so tough for your right now. Just hang on - things will get better.If allergies are the real problem, maybe you could ask your parents if the dog could go in just two rooms - your room as well as the basement. Perhaps if you know someone who could take the dog for awhile during the day or once or twice a week that would also help make you both feel better. Phone a local rescue or shelter and see if they have any ideas for you. You might even be able to find a volunteer who would do this for you. Also, if you are post college age then perhaps you'll soon find yourself in your own house with more than enough room for lots of dogs! I think perhaps you need to think about long term solutions and recognize that it may not be something you can fix right away (since it sounds like it's your parents dog). Dogs can put up with a lot - it doesn't have to be forever. Find a way to stop feeling helpless. IP: Logged |
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Karriesue Member Posts: 110 |
posted 10-30-2003 07:52 AM
Hi Cybbogirl. I don't think you really understand about Rescue. These dogs are kept in "Foster Homes". Rescue people take these dogs into their own homes and care for them. I have worked with a couple of rescue groups and believe me when I say that older dogs are adopted all the time. Maybe not at the same rate as younger dogs but they are adopted. While they are waiting for adoption, they are well cared for and loved. Sometimes vets are reliable for good info and sometimes they are not. You get good ones and bad ones. This one doesn't seem to have a clue and I am sorry she was of no help. Telling you to get a buddy for Bruno was irresponsible. That was all you need, right?? If you go on the web and look under rescue groups for Dobies, you can get some info about a local group in your area. I would call or e-mail them and tell them your situation. They will most likely be helpful and answer all your questions and concerns. This will help you make a better decision. Remember you can come here anytime to talk and we will help the best we can. Keep us posted. Take care. IP: Logged |
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Jamiya Member Posts: 501 |
posted 10-30-2003 08:21 AM
Does he cry when you put him back downstairs? Does he scratch at the door or anything? What exactly is the allergy issue? Has your mother tried medications? Special shampoos for the dog? Febreze allergy spray stuff? Are you going to be getting a place any time soon that would allow dogs, and do you think your parents would let you take him then? Your parents are right in one respect - you do need to let go a little bit. I sympathise with you and with the dog, but you can't let it eat you up. You will be no good to him if you break down. Trust me, I know what I am talking about. I am a lot like you.
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NewLabOwnr Member Posts: 116 |
posted 10-30-2003 10:48 AM
I'm so sorry that you find yourself in this situation. It must be very hard. Since this is effecting you so badly you must find be proactive in finding a solution. My personal opinion would be to try to get this dog into a Rescue group. Here is one I found for dobbies in your area: Illinois Doberman Rescue I'm assuming your parents wouldn't object to giving the dog up to a new home. If they have no contact with him at all then why do they care? Like the others asked do you anticipate with the completion of college that you will moving to a dog friendly place where you willing/able to bring the poor guy with you? Maybe you could print out some of our replies to your posts and let your parents read it. It is one thing to believe a dog is a dog but to believe he is fine living in a basement is just not logical. At the very least these rescue groups provide foster homes until the animal is adopted out. I might be wrong but don't dobie's live for quite a long time? He would be much better off living in a foster care then being sent to a basement. Try not to overwhelm yourself worrying about it though. There really are only a few solutions.. talk with your parents and decide on one. If you are quarter-life age as you said they should respect your opinion as an adult. [This message has been edited by NewLabOwnr (edited 10-30-2003).] IP: Logged |
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goob Member Posts: 353 |
posted 10-30-2003 12:41 PM
Would it be possible for you to let him come in your room with you at times, as long as you kept the door shut and the room clean so the allergens wouldn't spread through the house so much? Just an idea, and I don't know how feasible it is for you... IP: Logged |
RottyMommy Moderator Posts: 449 |
posted 10-30-2003 03:36 PM
Ive been sitting here from the beginning of all this keeping quiet. But I feel I have to say something. First off keeping a dog in the basement without socialization and probably not much sunlight is animal neglect a form of animal abuse. Secondly by giving a dog up to a rescue it is not put down. It lives with a foster family until the dog can be placed or stays with the foster family its remaining life. Thirdly how much worse could the dog really end up. My feelings are and Im sorry to say this but I think the dog would be better off being put down then living in the conditions that it is now. How would you like to live in the basement day in day out without much affection or love. Dogs are pack animals. They are meant to be with family. They are not to be kept outside, tied to chains, thrown in the basement to live out their lives. And getting another dog for this dog is the most ludicrous thing I have ever heard. What is your vet from mars? Im sorry to be so harsh but seriously you have 3 choices. Go along with your dog being neglected and basically abused or take the right step and find a rescue that will take your dog, or third put your dog down and put it out of the misery it is in!! IP: Logged |
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