i need some advice

[catluvr24]

i have a 4yr.old cat and she is very spoiled.i had another cat that she was close with but then we moved to va and i had to leave the other cat behind w my ex and now i just got a new kitten and she is acting out.why is she being to stubborn when she was around another cat just last year?how can i get her to get along and except the baby?the baby is 10wks. old. my cat is also spaded and declawed.does having her spaded before she could have babies hae anything to do with her being so distant?help please

[sunset05]

Welcome to the Board, catluvr24.

It can take time to introduce a new kitty to another kitty, even if your kitty was once around another kitty. It can be a territorial thing and scent is important to a kitty and the new kitty has a different scent.

It might be a good idea to keep your kitties separated for awhile until they get used to each other's scents. Maybe at first pet each kitty with the same towel so their scents mix. It will take time but hopefully they will be best friends. Be patient with them and give them lots of love, expecially your older kitty so she doesn't feel left out.

Here is a link that might help:

http://www.fabcats.org/introducing.html

[Bente]

Cats are like people: everyone is an individual, and both we and they react different to different individuals. Some we have great chemistry with, others we can't get along with. But like Sunset said: give them time, and do a slow intro, and they will probably become friends eventually

You wrote that your 4 year old cat is declawed, I don't know if it's you or a previous owner who had it done, but I beg you not to do this to your new kitten. Declawing is an amputation of the outer joint of the toe, and it is very painful for the cat, and it may also cause behavior problems like biting and peeing outside the litterbox. As a matter of fact, declawing is forbidden by law here in Norway, and in the rest of Europe as well I think. Maybe you already know this, but it's better to say it one time too many than not to say it at all

[Chezza]

It is Highly illegal to de-claw here in Australia too, not to mention very very in-humane I'm afraid. And I totally agree with Bente.. It saddens me very much and sends shivers down the spine eveytime I here that word.
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Anyway when I got my Tiff, jay was very very naughty with her, hissing and growling, and generally hating her presence, I sepereated them for at least a week or even 2 could of been longer.
I gave Jay lots of praise when she was near just to let him know he's the man of the house, as long as he didnt BITE or really harm her there was no need to chastise him, as it makes them think they are being shoved aside.
Within a few days of allowing her smells to cover the house, he was fine, bit by bit he sat with her, NOW they are IN-SEPERABLE
If one cant see the other, they go look.. They are the best of friends.
It takes time and lots of patients.